As someone under the age of thirty with an internet connection, I’ve seen my fair share of all the posts regarding the coming New Year. They all talk about what they plan to do, how fast time has gone by or how slow 2018 has felt, all the memories both good and bad that they’ve made, and things they hope to accomplish in the New Year. (Don’t even get me started on the amount of posts I’ve seen talking about how they’re going into 2019 single) I’ve no problem with any of this, as I take everything people say on social media with a grain of salt, but there has been a trend happening that might’ve just slipped through the cracks for me last year.
What I’m talking about is the posts, mostly screenshots of tweets, that say something along the lines of “If we haven’t talked recently, don’t talk to me at all in 2019”.
I might’ve butchered it a bit, but it’s not like it was the most intellectual sentence in the first place. Basically, this type of person needs constant reassurance that the people in their lives care for them to some extent or they’ll die from not having attention like Tinkerbelle does. For some reason, I just didn’t really agree with this way of thinking.
I saw a couple of people that followed repost this and it’s rubbed me the wrong way because of how dismissive and honestly dramatic I find it to be. This kind of thinking doesn’t leave any room for the benefit of the doubt on people’s circumstances, dumps the blame on failed relationships to everyone else, and completely eradicates the option of forgiveness for the person you’re sub tweeting. If someone really wanted to never talk to someone again, they’d just block them honestly, I mean, we’re in the 21st century.
Overall, what I’m trying to get at here is that I know all these Cosmo articles have been telling us to just cut “toxic” people out left and right, but there’s a difference between an abusive friend or partner and just a genuine friend we’ve had a disagreement with and haven’t talked to in a while.
At the end of the day, we’re all human and all that jazz, so frankly taking the petty route of “if you haven’t hit me up in a while, I’m done with you” is immature and bitter. For the New Year, we should try to reconnect with people and establish and maintain healthy relationships with everyone; try to be a source of positivity!
Unless you want unnecessary drama, then by all means ignore everything I’ve just said.